... But the scale hasn't moved!

You've made some changes.  You're eating better.  You're working out.  You're moving more in your day-to-day.  And you're FEELING those changes too!  Your clothes are fitting better.  Your face has thinned out.  Your skin is glowing.  You have more energy.  Your bloat is gone. People are noticing and complimenting you.  You're excited to get to workouts and you meal prep on Sundays.  These changes are taking hold and you're feeling great!  
Then you step on the scale and it has not budged, or it has barely budged.  
And then you let all the good feelings you've been having crash down around you and you're convinced "this isn't working".  Even though, empirically, the evidence will show otherwise, because one number on one scale isn't what you expected, you let it define your journey to date as a failure.  

As a trainer, there's nothing more frustrating to me than this (ok, sorry, when people show up like twice and then don't show up for a month, then show up twice again and then complain it's not working - that's more frustrating ... but I digress).  I have actually had clients who, even though they've had all the positives we talk about above - the improved energy, the improved strength, the loss in pant size (or two), etc - they have quit, yes QUIT, because the scale didn't say a number they were expecting.  I have tried so hard to wrap my head around WHY what the scale says is the grand ultimate reflection of if you feel you succeeded at wellness or not.  And then, just yesterday, I found myself for the briefest of moments doing the same thing.

As I'm sure you all know, I'm on my own "regaining my wellness" journey after a few years of injuries and sedentary lifestyle and far too much garbage food.  And during these past three months I've been feeling pretty good!  I've improved the nutrition greatly and finally have started getting active again.  And I popped on the scale yesterday and was like "whaaaaaaa ... how can it still be there?". And for a moment I let all the work I've done and how good I feel crash to the bathroom floor around me.  But then I went and trained my clients for an early morning class, and as I looked around at my badass clients kicking ass that morning, I realized I would NOT accept this mentality from them, so why even consider it for myself.  So, I went back inside and tucked the scale away.  There is a time and a place to check the scale, but now ain't it.  I have my baseline numbers and now I will put all my focus on continuing to do the things that I know are making me feel better - both inside and out.  There's about a billion different scientific explanations for why a scale won't move, especially at the start of a wellness journey, and frankly, I ain't got the time to deep dive into trying to figure out the specific reason for me.  I'm going to be too busy eating good food, being active and just enjoying this new lifestyle that's making me feel good.  This new lifestyle cannot and will not be defined nor determined by the scale.  I know eventually it WILL move.  Just like a watched pot never boils, a scale obsessed over will never budge.  So in a few months I'll pop on it again and see what's up ... but since the number doesn't really have anything to do with how I plan on living my day-to-day ... what shows up on the display is really rather irrelevant.  If I'm doing the right things, and I'm confident that I am, the weight will come off whether I'm looking at the scale or not, so why give myself the mental anguish a scale can provide?  

Seeing a specific number on a scale is not the ultimate reward for starting a new wellness journey ... feeling amazing and your personal best is ... and always should be.